We've got style, how 'bout you?
Monday, April 13, 2009 at 2:22PM My friend Danielle at Delightfully Sweet reads/skims many, many blogs and websites (so many that I wonder how she has time to do all the things she does - I'm beginning to think she has a Harry Potter time turner):
(Remember, Hermione uses it to get to more classes? You find out about it in book/movie three, Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban.)
Anyway (before I go on a Harry Potter tangent), I, too, look at a lot of sites and some blogs (although not nearly as many, it seems). I find myself too disparaged at times by other people's style and abilities. I wonder why I can't dress like that, why I don't have the money for certain things, why I don't have the time to cultivate the hobbies and activities that other people do. I love that people share so much of themselves and their lives online, but I'm always curious for more information. Just how do they manage to look so good, have that picnic, write that book, raise that kid, film that show, take those pictures, cook those dinners. I don't have time to cultivate a photography habit, write a book, go food shopping, cook a nutritious and inexpensive dinner, have a kid, raise that kid, dress him or her cutely, dress me cutely, have great hair, be witty, relax, read great books - and on, and on, and on. These are all things I want to do, but I'm wondering if everyone has to pick and choose.
It reminds me of those birth control commercials where the family has several kids, goes skiing, moves to Memphis and the mother hopes to "finish a book, finish a sentence!" And then they go on to have a very cute little girl after going off the birth control. There should be other types of control. I don't have time to perfect my dinner making, so I should be on "dinner control" - what I do for dinner shouldn't count towards my weight and nutrition until I'm ready to direct my energy toward it. Or "hair control" - my hair will always look good (just not great) until I have the time and money to get my color done and spend a little more time on my hair in the morning.
I'll admit it: I'm a control freak. There, I said it. Type A, all the way. Perhaps that's why I feel like I should be able to have it all and do it all, even though I recognize that's nearly impossible. But the promise of it keeps me striving, keeps me working at being a better wife, cook, friend, sister, daughter, and most importantly, a better me.
I will keep avoiding certain websites, though, because they make me feel too inadequate... and I'm not going to stop wishing for a time turner.
Reader Comments (2)
It is all about time management. I try to get everything done while K is either at work, school or sleeping. I like to have the time that he is home for us, so when he doing any one of those that is when I get the laundry, gym, cleaning, baking, blogging, reading or surfing done. We always have something scheduled so I always need to find time to fit everything in. Two things that also help are Wednesdays (we both have them off) and that I usually get up early during the week every day to get other things done. The best time for me to have time to myself is right after K goes to sleep. As you know he leaves very early in the morning so he is in bed by at least 10. I usually stay up a bit later (till about 11-11:30) and that is when I might log on, read or just watch a show.
There are a lot of things that I do say no to. Sometimes K goes to his parents without me or goes to visit his brother alone or goes on Sunday for breakfast without me. I used to try to do everything and schedule everything, but it doesn’t always work out and in the end you are overwhelmed with amount of things that you have to do. I know…I was there at one time. You really have to think of you more then anyone else. I was always about making other people my first priority before myself. (But don’t fall off the radar!) You just need to find a balance between your social life, home life and work life. It is a delicate dance but once you learn it is perfection.