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Friday
05Feb2010

Things I Miss Friday: not being appalled and angry

This week I finally told two of my coworkers that I'm pregnant and, of course, they asked me how I was doing/feeling.  My normal answer for this is that I feel really great and I've been pretty happy throughout the pregnancy - happier and less moody than I tended to be on a regular pre-pregnancy/on hormonal birth control basis.

So I have to wonder how I'd be feeling if some of the things I've read this week happened pre-pregnancy, because I've really been getting steamed up about a few things this week.

Our national bloviating douche, Rush Limbaugh, has the honor of the first two of this week's three irritations.

1 - Rush Limbaugh is a misogynistic jackass.  (Oh, you knew that already?)

Limbaugh was a judge for the Miss America pageant last week (I just have to skip over all that is wrong with that statement or else this post will go on for days).  He was on, what else, Fox and Friends to discuss this and, apparently, the state of women - wherein he said this:

"Oh, I’m a huge supporter of women. What I’m not a supporter of is liberalism. Feminism is what I oppose, and feminism has led women astray. I love women. I don’t know where all this got started. I love the women’s movement — especially when walking behind it."

Excuse me while I go barf violently.  YOU CANNOT SUPPORT WOMEN AND NOT SUPPORT FEMINISM.  And since when is it okay to say how you love women, especially their asses, AND NOT HAVE ANYONE SAY ANYTHING IN RESPONSE???

This makes me so angry that I actually am having slight chest pains right now thinking about it.  I understand that people in the media entertainment are going to say things just for shock value and ratings, but they should not be allowed to say harmful things and not have to answer for it.

Okay, deep breath.  Okay, two deep breaths.  Onto . . .

2. Rush Limbaugh is a lying-makes-things-up-as-he-goes-along jackass.  (Oh, you knew that, too?)

Limbaugh believes that President Obama's law school professors wrote his law review articles:

"I think this is the first time in his life that there’s not a professor around to turn his C into an A or to write the law review article for him he can’t write. He’s totally exposed and there’s nobody to make it better. I think he’s been covered for all his life. The fact that his agenda failed this year is the best thing that could have happened to this country."

Can you weep and fume at the same time?  It must be possible, because that's where I'm at.  Like Obama or not, the one thing that I have seen no sane people disagree with is that he's a good writer and orator (disclosure: I think he's a great writer and orator - probably the best we have seen/will see for quite some time).  The notion that he needed his professors to turn Cs into As or write articles for him is incredibly preposterous.  AND, let's say you don't believe the President is an accomplished writer; as a college professor and graduate school student, I can add that the likelihood of something like this EVER occurring is so remotely, remarkably slim - especially in law school.  Could there be a group of people more aware of the legal ramifications of such behavior?

I simply have a hard time reconciling the idea that there are no repercussions for this type of blatant lying and misogyny in "the media" (I really don't even want to call them just plain media anymore).  There's always been sensationalism and we've always laughed at publications like The Enquirer and the Weekly World News but now it's mainstream news organizations LYING on a regular (seemingly daily) basis.  I just flat-out don't know what to do with this.

3. Boycott Diesel clothing and write them an email explaining that sexual exploitation should not sell clothes.

Our third aggravation of the week comes from clothing company Diesel.  They have a new campaign entitled "Be Stupid," which is supposed to encourage teens and young adults to not be afraid to "be stupid" - by which they mean to be fearless, be willing to make mistakes, and anti-perfectionist.  But, then wouldn't that be smart??

But besides that, the cornerstone ad for the campaign shows a young woman flashing her breasts at a security camera.  Because that's fearless?

And, to boot, it says, "Smart may have the brains, but stupid has the balls."  Because, 1 - you need balls to be brave (hi misogyny AGAIN), and 2 - you simply can't be smart AND brave.  All of those explorers and inventors and innovators must have been a huge slew of dumb-dumbs, I guess.  (Auuuuugh.)

It's DUMB, for sure - they got that part right.  And it's a mistake - a mistake to fall for the patriarchal, misogynistic idea that flashing your breasts whenever you want is an empowering move.  Yes, loving your body is empowering.  Yes, claiming your breasts as a beautiful part of you that you are free to share as you wish is empowering and smart.  But I do not believe for a single, solitary moment that all of the encouraged flashing in our current culture is meant to empower girls.  Simply, no.  It's exploiting them under the guise of empowerment.

To see the ad (it's so offensive to me that I simply didn't want to post the picture here) and the WeAreTheRealDeal take on it as well as get the contact information for who to complain about this ad to, go to Heather (mamav)'s post about it on WeAreTheRealDeal.

Sigh.  This is such a downer of a post for a Friday, I know.  Fridays should be all, "Yay, weekend!" but it's just not today.  Plus, I have to work tomorrow so that makes it feel less weekend-y.  I promise I'm in a better mood than this post suggests - but these things make me angry and I feel like they shouldn't go unmentioned.

Friday
15Jan2010

Things I Miss Friday: a normal nose

Why does pregnancy throw your nose out of whack?

As I type this, the inside of my left nostril is tingling, as it is wont to do throughout much of any given day.  If it's not tingling, the right nostril probably is.  If neither is tingly, they're both probably stuffed and crusty . . . and there isn't a day that goes by that I don't have at least a small bit of a bloody nose at some point . . . and all of this has been going on for at least three months now.

But do not let these signs of seeming malfunction fool you - oh no, this nose is functioning at above average levels right now.  Build a tuna sandwich in the next town over and I'll be able to tell you what brand of mayo you used.  I live with someone who eats Mexican food on a regular basis so you can just imagine what our home smells like to me.  I can't walk from one end of the apartment to the other without getting bombarded by half a dozen different smells.

Is this what it's like to be a dog?  I wonder if I should have more patience for Oreo when she wants to sniff a hundred things on a one-block walk.  Is leaving a dirty dish in the living room as bad as it seems because I can smell that dish all the way from the kitchen?  (Well, yeah, I think a dirty dish in the living still is bad but not primarily because the smells waft toward me a la Pepe le Pew.)


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I actually asked my sister the other day if my nose would ever go back to normal because it's really driving me crazy (as both nostrils are now tingling and I'm pretty sure I smell some rank air someone let loose in here yesterday as the smell clings to the carpet).

I would like my old, adequately functioning nose back, please.  I would like to walk through a restaurant without feeling like everyone is trying to make me taste their food selections all at once.  I would like to not feel like my entire home needs Febreze-ing.  I would like to not feel like I smell bad the second I get out of the shower.

Okay, so if I missed the morning sickness boat completely and have yet to be troubled by any other pregnancy issues (constipation, hemorroids, migraines, etc) and the worst of it is my cranky, super-sensitive nose, I'll keep it . . . but I'm still looking forward to smelling like a normal person again in a few months.

Friday
08Jan2010

Things I Miss Friday: Soggy Sandwiches

It's been a while since I've done a "Things I Miss Friday" so here's one for the new year.  Somehow, this topic has come up a couple of times this week and I am currently eating a very stiff PB&J for lunch, so what I miss most right now is soggy sandwiches.

(I couldn't even find a picture of a soggy sandwich!)

I haven't eaten regular, ol' white bread in years.  I don't even remember the last time I had any, honestly, and this is because I now only eat multigrain (non-HFCS) bread.  It keeps me fuller longer and I know my body is processing it better than it would other bread.

But what the hubby loves about this multigrain bread so much is exactly what I detest about it: it's hardy.  Strong like bull.  It does not buckle to the juiciest jelly or the globbiest tuna with mayo.  Nope.  It stands its ground and says, "Here - here are the contents of your sandwich, fully intact, just as they were when you constructed this lovely lunch."

Hubby: Yay!  Yay for whole grains and seeds in my bread!  Yay for a strong, hardy sandwich!

Me:  *glum*

I miss Wonder Bread.  I miss seeing my PB&J through the bread.  I miss seeing the texture of my tuna through bread that has absorbed half of it.  I love a sandwich that I need to support with both hands otherwise it will flop over, break, and spill.

But, no.  That bread is no good for me and my hunger and my glucose levels.  But it's beautiful and mushy and you can rip the crusts off of a plain slice and roll the white center into a tasty little ball.

Alas.  Maybe one day they'll make a bread that is good for me and weak.  I can dream.

Friday
16Oct2009

Things I miss Friday: bodega breakfast

When I worked in NYC, nearly every morning I stopped at one of the city's finest treasures for breakfast - a corner bodega.

Lately I've been in a breakfast rut.  Too many mornings I get a tall coffee and egg white, turkey bacon, and cheese sandwich from Starbucks.  The other mornings I have coffee from home and half of a pb&j sandwich.  Seriously, this is a deep rut.

This morning I wanted eggs - not on a bagel, not on an english muffin, just eggs - maybe with some ketchup and some toast that I can eat if I want to, or whatever.  Just NOT EGGS ON A CARB PLATTER.

But no, I can't get that easily around here.  Sure, I can go to a bagel place and probably get something like that, but not with the same ease as I could in NYC.  Plus, I can't get that and my snacks and lunch for the day at the same time.  For those I must make additional treks, and then I'm late for work because I don't want to leave early just to get food.

Plus, when I worked in NYC, I had alone time in the morning to enjoy my breakfast.  Not so much now - constantly surrounded by students, coworkers, and am working in small-ish space, so the smell of food lingers and that isn't fair to anyone who comes in.

So it's eggs and cheese, on a carb platter, eaten in the car - and I don't like it.  I'm over it.  I need to revamp my breakfast plans and habits and stop longing for my bodega days.

Friday
04Sep2009

Things I Love Friday - NYC Driving

Some people (okay, a lot of people) think I'm crazy for this, but I LOVE to drive in New York City.  No really, LOVE IT.  There have been times I've gone into the city just to drive around.  (Yes, I know, I know, they don't need the added traffic and pollution, I know.)  Anytime anyone needs to be dropped off in the city, any borough, and doesn't want to take mass transit for some reason, I am leaping out of my seat to volunteer.

There are three keys to successfully driving in NYC:

1 - Know your car really well.  Know its dimensions and what it can and cannot do.  You need to know how much pick-up your car has, how good the brakes are, how good the turning radius is, and so on.  You need to know your car like you know your own body.

2 - Be confident in your own driving.  You do not have a nanosecond to second-guess yourself.  Want to sneak into the next lane?  Just go.  Bully your way in as nicely as possible (yes, there is a way to be a nice bully driver).  It's when you are clearly still thinking about what you want to do and are dithering back and forth that you're going to supremely piss off the natives.  (I have yelled, "F'ing go or don't go!!" many-a-time.)

3 - Stay calm and relaxed.  This is the part that I think gives people the most trouble.  They're worried about where they're going, the noise, the closeness of the other cars, and pissing off other drivers.  You just can't care about that.  Driving in Manhattan today, I pissed off the same cop twice.  Did I care?  No, my parents and I were laughing about it.  And that was a cop, not just another driver.  You just have to be relaxed and laissez-faire about the whole thing.

So when my parents needed someone to drive them to LaGuardia airport this morning, I leapt at the chance, even though it meant getting up at 6am.  I love NYC any time, but I have a particular fondness for the buzz of the morning.  People with their coffees and iPods, purposefully walking to work or a morning appointment.  I love it and miss it (I worked in Manhattan for 3 1/2 years).

And for anyone who complains about how confusing Newark airport is?  You've clearly never been to LaGuardia.  Sheesh.

Driving back home, I snapped this view of Manhattan from Queens:

You might have laughed if I told you
You might have hidden the frown
You might have succeeded in changing me
I might have been turned around

It's easier to leave than to be left behind (it's pulling me apart)
Leaving was never my proud (change)
Leaving New York never easy (it's pulling me apart)

~R.E.M., "Leaving New York"